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Tips to rectify a few things you might be unhappy about

In your day to day life, as you go along, how many times do you notice the way you deal with people and situations? Do you see yourself as a calm, kind and patient being while you communicate with your family, friends and colleagues? Or do you feel tense, stressful and somewhat negative about your approach towards them? If you belong to the latter category of people then following points may help you in knowing the root cause of your tensions, anger or frustration.

Once you have identified what has been troubling you, you can work more clearly on solving the issue. Have a look at some possible reasons below:

1. You wish you could have lead a different life:
Do you feel content with your life at present? Or is it

The Simplest way to relax in Adversities

Many times we are faced with certain adversities in life, that it becomes difficult to feel hopeful and positive about any aspect at all. You might feel stuck, irritated and impatient about things not working out in your favour. Most of the times when I am faced with such critical situations, I tend to panic and even face difficulties in breathing normally. Can you see the adverse impact of stress here, as what it can do? It can screw up even a normal and natural process like breathing!
When we are in stress, our breaths become shallow and that impacts our blood pressure and other body parts too, as they get less than normal oxygen supply.

It is really important to focus on your breathing, because from my experience, I have seen that my breathing pattern actually is an indicator of my state of mind. When I am happy and relaxed, I take normal paced deep breaths, when I am tense, my breathing becomes shallow and fast, when I feel exhilarated about the speed in activities like running, dancing etc., my breathing become short, fast and deep.

It actually took me a moment to realize that, if outside world can affect my feelings and in turn my breathing pattern, can't it work the other way round? Like if stress can make my breathing shallow, can't I alter my breathing to change the state of my mind to the calm and relaxed one! And once my mind is relaxed and in control, I can always take the most rational and positive action to alter the state of my being.

All in all, breathing is the most natural and impulsive action of our being. It also has very deep and emphatic role in creating our lives. So, it doesn't matter what situation you are faced with, you can always control your breaths, focus on them, make them deep, relax your mind and follow the course of actio your relax mind tells you.

Life has always been quite simple; it is us who complicate it often.

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7 Lies You should Stop Telling Yourself!

When you aspire to alter the course of your life, be successful in your business, start a new venture, you may find the task quite challenging. You naturally start developing a sense of self-pity and automatically start neglecting the reasons that might be inhibiting you from enjoying a successful life.

According to Maria Robinson:

“You cannot go back and start a new beginning, but you can always start today and create a new ending.”

Sometimes it is good to take some time off your regular routine and observe your life to know what exactly has been holding you back, and then rectify things accordingly.
Many times knowledge of the things you may not want to know, but need to, can give you that necessary kick start and get the stuffs moving in your life. There are many lies that we keep speaking to ourselves, and no matter how well we can justify them, deep down in our hearts we know well that we aren't being truly honest to ourselves. Here listing below are few of those common lies:

1. I couldn't succeed because of that person : If someone has done wrong to you, its your responsibility to take charge of your life and make things work in your favour. Blame game can lead you nowhere except for getting more frustration from already screwed up things.

2. I don't have enough time for all this: From my experience, I have known that if you really want to do something, you will always find time for that. The trick is to know whether you really want to do it or not. Once you decide it, your day of 24 hours can easily be adjusted for you to spare enough time for your tasks.

3. I can't do it:
There is a huge difference between 'I can't do it' and 'I don't want to do it' . If you truly want to do something, believe that you can do it no matter what.

4. I am not that lucky:
Whining and moaning about your past failures can only make your already few friends run away from you. Even speaking such things to yourself can't change anything, except for ruining your mood and spoiling your day. What has gone can't be brought back, so it is better to let go of past failures, focus on your present and plan for your future accordingly.

5. I will try but I am not sure:
You may say that to appease someone else, but saying that to yourself is downright lie. You either do something or not do it. You can even 'want' to do it and 'not want'. Decide and take action. Staying midway does no good to anyone.

6. Life isn't fair:
If you are amongst those who think this often, then let me ask you something. Is someone else directing your life's course? Now don't start the blame game again. What I want to know is that you breath yourself.. right? No one else does that for you. Your hands and legs aren't tied; the shackles are just in your mind and once you break them and set yourself free, you will be able to take the charge of your life. And then life will always be fair for you, because you would know what to do and get the best out of it.

7. I don't have any thing to feel good about:
Are you sure you really don't have anything to be grateful for? You have the eyes to read this article, and if you can't be grateful of this simple gratification from the universe, ask someone who doesn't have this basic privilege.
Life itself is the best blessing for you, it is just your job to seek the path that is right for you. Be thankful for everthing that has made your life so beautiful.

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List of few things they don't teach in Schools

I've been making a list of the things
they don't teach you at school.
They don't teach you
how to love somebody.
They don't teach you
how to be famous.
They don't teach you
how to be rich or
how to be poor.
They don't teach you
how to walk away from someone
you don't love any longer.
They don't teach you
how to know what's going on
in someone else's mind.
They don't teach you what to say
to someone who's dying.
They don't teach you
anything worth knowing.

― Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones

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Sailing the Boat of Life

I find the great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving: To reach the port of heaven, we must sail sometimes with the wind and sometimes against it - but we must sail, and not drift, nor lie at anchor.~ Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

While going through my daily dose of motivational reminders, I came across this wonderful quote by Oliver Wendell Holmes, and couldn't stop myself from marvelling the simplicity and beauty of these words. There is a difference between mere drifting and sailing the course of your life.While drifting can be easy, it is aimless and certainly wouldn't make you see any difference in your life. You leave your life on chance; if its a gorgeous island that you land on, you call it mere luck, whereas in cases of crisis like thunderstorm you curse your fate.
Sailing purposefully, involves taking control of the path you have chosen and determinedly following it, irrespective of whether the conditions and circumstances are in favor of you or against you. And that my friend is what will take you to the port of your bliss; the heaven that you've been seeking for so long.

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Visualize and Affirm Your Desired Outcomes: A Step-by-Step Guide

I have always felt that visualization and imagining something in its full glory can do wonders for you. However, there is a bit difference in day-dreaming and creative visualization. While the former helps you kill your time and get rid of occassional boredom, the latter if done the right way, can possibly and powerfully transform your whole life in the ways that can only leave you spellbound.

I do make it a point to visialize my goals everyday and while browsing to find more effective techniques for the same, I came across the following article by Jack Canfield. I found it quite amazing and can't wait to add his pointers to my visualization practices. Have a look at the article and hia step-by-step guide below:

You have an awesome power that most of us have never been taught to use effectively.Elite athletes use it. The super rich use it. And peak performers in all fields now use it.That power is called visualization.The daily practice of visualizing your dreams as already complete can rapidly accelerate your achievement of those dreams, goals and ambitions.

Visualization of your goals and desires accomplished four very important things.

1.)It activates your creative subconsciouswhich will start generating creative ideas to achieve your goal.

2.)It programs your brainto more readily perceive and recognize the resources you will need to achieve your dreams.

3.)It activates the law of attraction, thereby drawing into your life the people, resources, and circumstances you will need to achieve your goals.

4.)It builds your internal motivationto take the necessary actions to achieve yourdreams.

Visualization is really quite simple. You sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes and imagine — in as vivid detail as you can— what you would be looking at if the dream you have were already realized. Imagine being inside of yourself, looking out through your eyes at the ideal result.

Mental Rehearsal

Athletes call this visualization process “mental rehearsal,” and they have been using it since the 1960s when we learned about it from the Russians. All you have to do is set aside a few minutes a day. The best times are when you first wake up, after meditation or prayer, and right before you go to bed. These are the times you are most relaxed.

Go through the following three steps:

STEP 1. Imagine sitting in a movie theater, the lights dim, and then the movie starts. It is a movie of you doing perfectly whatever it is that you want to do better. See as much detail as you can create, including your clothing, the expression on your face, small body movements, the environment and any other people that might be around. Add in any sounds you would be hearing — traffic, music, other people talking, cheering. And finally, recreate in your body any feelings you think you would be experiencing as you engage in this activity.

STEP 2. Get out of your chair, walk up to the screen, open a door in the screen and enter into the movie. Now experience the whole thing again from inside of yourself, looking out through your eyes. This is called an “embodied image” rather than a “distant image.” It will deepen the impact of the experience. Again, see everything in vivid detail, hear the sounds you would hear, and feel the feelings you would feel.

STEP 3. Finally, walk back out of the screen that is still showing the picture of you performing perfectly, return to your seat in the theater, reach out and grab the screen and shrink it down to the size of a cracker. Then, bring this miniature screen up to your mouth, chew it up and swallow it. Imagine that each tiny piece — just like a hologram — contains the full picture of you performing well. Imagine all these little screens traveling down into your stomach and out through the bloodstreaminto every cell of your body. Then imagine that every cell of your body is lit up with a movie of you performing perfectly. It’s like one of those appliance store windows where 50 televisions are all tuned to the same channel.

When you have finished this process — it should take less than five minutes — you can open your eyes and go about your business. If you make this part of your daily routine, you will be amazed at how much improvement you will see in your life.

Create Goal Pictures

Another powerful technique is to create a photograph or picture of yourself with your goal, as if it were already completed. If one of your goals is to own a new car, take your camera down to your local auto dealer and have a picture taken of yourself sitting behind the wheel of your dream car.If your goal is to visit Paris, find a picture or poster of the Eiffel Tower and cut out a picture of yourself and place it into the picture.

Create a Visual Picture and an Affirmation for Each Goal

We recommend that you find or create a picture of every aspect of your dream life. Create a picture or a visual representation for every goal you have — financial, career, recreation, new skills and abilities, things you want to purchase, and so on.When we were writing the very first Chicken Soup for the Soul® book, we took a copy of the New York Times best seller list, scanned it into our computer, and using the same font as the newspaper, typed Chicken Soup for the Soul into the number one position in the “Paperback Advice, How-To and Miscellaneous” category. We printed several copies and hung them up around the office. Less than two years later, our book was the number one book in that category and stayed there for over a year!

Index Cards

We practice a similar discipline every day. We each have a list of about 30-40 goals we are currently working on. We write eachgoal on a 3x5 index card and keep those cards near our bed and take them with us when we travel. Each morning and each night we go through the stack of cards, one at a time, read the card, close our eyes, see the completion of that goal in itsperfect desired state for about 15 seconds, open our eyes and repeat the process with the next card.Use Affirmations to Support Your VisualizationAn affirmation is a statement that evokes not only a picture, but the experience of already having what you want. Here’s an example of an affirmation:I am happily vacationing 2 months out of the year in a tropical paradise, and workingjust four days a week owning my own business.Repeating an affirmation several times a day keeps you focused on your goal, strengthens your motivation, and programs your subconscious by sending an order to your crew to do whatever it takes to make that goal happen.Expect ResultsThrough writing down your goals, using the power of visualization and repeating your affirmations, you can achieveamazing results.

Visualization and affirmations allow you to change your beliefs,assumptions, and opinions about the most important person in your life — YOU! They allow you to harness the 18 billion brain cells in your brain and get them all working in a singular and purposeful direction.Your subconscious will become engaged in a process that transforms you forever. The process is invisible and doesn’t take along time. It just happens over time, as long as you put in the time to visualize and affirm, surround yourself with positive people, read uplifting books and listen to audio programs that flood your mind with positive, life-affirming messages.

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About the author

Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder ofthe billion-dollar book brandChicken Soupfor the Soul®and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy inall that you do, get FREE success tips fromJack Canfield now at:

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